Equation determines the formula, different equations require different formulae

I am not much of a math whiz. In fact, I am nowhere near that but I know that there at least a million and one formulae in mathematics and each one has a particular equation it is applied to. You don’t just take any formula and force it on an equation.

The equation determines the formula. In the same manner, kids are like equations. Each one is unique, even right from the pregnancy. Your kids are individuals in their own right.  They have differing capabilities, preferences, and experiences. 

You may have four kids and each of them will be light years from one another. This may give you a headache sometimes because it means your approach when you want to get something done will change from child to child. Yet, don’t wish they were all the same. Their peculiarities spice up your life, make being a parent exciting and make them their own person rather than clones of what you believe is ideal.

Quit trying to panel-beat your kids into who they are not. Relate with them based on who you perceive them to be as you observe them. In this way, each child will rise to full potential.

Mind you, where your children get to in life usually begin from how well you are able to recognize them for who they are and then egg them on to become the best as that person. Stop trying to get them to act in a way that suits you or is easier for you to handle. Children are not meant to be convenient; you step out of your way and use the right formula to get the right result.